Transforming the Suffering from the Death of a Loved one

To endure life and love, one must transform suffering.

Omar Khayyam, Persian poet, wrote ‘No day is more lost to you than the day which was passed without love.‘

Resist the Impulse to Blame

I think it is essential for family members surviving a loved one’s suicide to resist the impulse to blame themselves or others, or even the departed loved one.  The mind will, over and over again, replay events leading to the suicide, haunted by the feeling “if only I had done something differently…”  There is no way to rewrite the story; one needs to accept things as they are.  Death is a fated event.

Believing that the spirit is indestructible, I think that one can help a loved one who has died, simply by sending love, silently and as often as one can. This is how I have transformed my son’s death and continued to keep…